{"id":654,"date":"2010-06-16T10:56:38","date_gmt":"2010-06-16T15:56:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=654"},"modified":"2010-06-16T10:56:38","modified_gmt":"2010-06-16T15:56:38","slug":"strange-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/strange-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Strange Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/220279254_17c20cbec5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-670\" title=\"220279254_17c20cbec5\" src=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/220279254_17c20cbec5-300x282.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"282\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2010\/06\/220279254_17c20cbec5-300x282.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2010\/06\/220279254_17c20cbec5.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>When I first started<em> <\/em>documenting my <em>Dithering<\/em> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=8\">nine months ago<\/a>, I had about 3 regular readers (that I know of), who were not related to me. I had 20 Twitter followers &#8212; most of whom were spambots &#8212; and virtually no idea what I was getting myself into.\u00a0 I just knew that my friends were tired of waking up to 5-page emails filled with the random thoughts that skipped across my mind between the hours of 2 and 3 A.M.<\/p>\n<p>So, I started this blog. Eight months later, I have poured my whole heart into it and I love my baby to death! I love that my audience has grown and I love that conversations have been started. But most of all, I LOVE the love I&#8217;ve received from strangers.\u00a0 Because of the love and encouragement I&#8217;ve received from people I&#8217;ve never even met, I feel like maybe I can be a writer for a living. Maybe I&#8217;ll get these books off the ground. Maybe nothing is impossible, and no one is out of reach.<\/p>\n<p>So here&#8217;s my tribute to the strangers who have touched my life in the past 8 months through my blog.<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->1) <a href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/sistertoldja\">Sister Toldja<\/a>: I first learned of blogger extraordinaire Sister Toldja back in November when she wrote a post on my alma mater, Hampton University, its coronation of a White Miss Hampton University, and the subsequent fallout. The post was titled &#8220;Lil&#8217; Obama, Big Fail.&#8221; As a Hamptonian, I disagreed with her characterization of Hampton, but as a sociologist, I appreciated her analysis of the events. I wrote a comment on the post, and became a regular reader of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thebeautifulstruggler.com\">TheBeautifulStruggler.com<\/a> after that.<\/p>\n<p>When I discovered a Washington Post article on Single, Successful, and Lonely Black Women featuring Helena Andrews, I wrote a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=59\">post on it<\/a>. I sent it to Sister Toldja to see if she had any comment on it. Her response was:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff\">Well, you know I wholeheartedly disagree with most of your points, but  well written!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000\">I was overjoyed. Disagree all day, but please, don&#8217;t say I don&#8217;t write well! It was all I needed.\u00a0 But since then, she has added me to her blogroll which sends new readers to my blog on a daily basis, introduced me to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.clutchmagonline.com\">Clutch Magazine<\/a> (more on that later!), and given me Happy Black Girl Day, which has made me the Happiest Black Girl in the land \ud83d\ude42\u00a0 Can&#8217;t thank her enough! (Look for more on her, later in the year!)<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000\">2) The second stranger to be a blessing to me was Helena Andrews, herself.\u00a0 After I wrote my post deconstructing the <em>Washington Post <\/em>article on her, she took the time to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=65\">respond to me, via email<\/a>.\u00a0 I&#8217;d been blogging for a good 4 weeks at that point, with an audience of about 50. I was barely in the little leagues, but she responded.\u00a0 And then set it up so that\u00a0 I could receive an advanced copy of her book, &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=479\">Bitch is the New Black<\/a>,&#8221; to review (have you ordered it, yet?). <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000\">3) Aliya S. King &#8212; whom I&#8217;ve <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?tag=aliya-s-king\">already<\/a> written about twice &#8212; continues to be such a great help to me, (so order her new book Platinum on the right hand side &#8212;&gt;).\u00a0 The most recent awesome thing she has done for me is to review my piece &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=573\">Does Sex and the City Hate Brown People?<\/a>&#8221; and tell me to stop pitching it to magazines:<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff\">It reads as a VERY good blog post. As a feature for Upscale? Not really.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #ff00ff\"><span style=\"color: #000000\">I stopped pitching it and published it immediately.\u00a0 The hits on this post have been insane! <\/span><\/span>The piece was  picked up and featured on <a href=\"http:\/\/bossip.com\/254589\/sex-and-the-city-racist-against-black-people-arabs\/\">Bossip.com<\/a> (thanks, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/bossip\">Bossip<\/a>!), and <span style=\"color: #ff00ff\"><span style=\"color: #000000\">my audience has grown exponentially.<br \/>\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>4) So, Dr. Marc Lamont Hill thinks I&#8217;m awesome. \ud83d\ude00<\/p>\n<p>Fine. He didn&#8217;t say those exact words, but it was soooo in the subtext of his tweet to me in response to my post &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/?p=132\">Thoughts on Being Called a Nappy Nigger in Post Racial America<\/a>&#8220;:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/MLH.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-671\" title=\"MLH\" src=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/MLH-300x209.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"209\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>He also agreed to write me a certain letter to a certain institution that I&#8217;m dying to go to in the Fall &#8212; via Twitter, which is totally, contractually binding \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p>5) Last, but certainly not least, Terry McMillan &#8212; yes, the Terry McMillan whose &#8220;Disappearing Acts&#8221; I read in one sitting when I was twelve years old &#8212; read my post, &#8220;Does Sex and the City Hate Brown People?&#8221;\u00a0 and thinks that I should have a book deal, ASAP. Again, you have to dig through the surface of her tweet to me to find that conclusion in the subtext, but that&#8217;s exactly what she meant \ud83d\ude42 In any event, it made my LIFE! Terry McMillan took time to read something I wrote? And thought it was &#8220;good&#8221;?! Get out:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/tmac.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-672\" title=\"tmac\" src=\"http:\/\/www.dcdistrictdiva.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/06\/tmac.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"612\" height=\"362\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Yay!<\/p>\n<p>Thanks, also, to all the random people who read (and especially those who comment!) I appreciate all the Strange Love \ud83d\ude42 Give some strange love to someone today! You never know how you might touch their lives!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I first started documenting my Dithering nine months ago, I had about 3 regular readers (that I know of), who were not related to me. I had 20 Twitter followers &#8212; most of whom were spambots &#8212; and virtually no idea what I was getting myself into.\u00a0 I just<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[27],"tags":[69,590,859,920],"class_list":["post-654","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-the-usual-dithering","tag-aliya-s-king","tag-marc-lamont-hill","tag-sister-toldja","tag-terry-macmillan"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7nB6F-ay","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/654","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=654"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/654\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=654"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=654"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.brookeobie.com\/districtdiva\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=654"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}